Anyone who has spent any time as a real estate investor should already know that it is of vital importance to know how to temper quick action with patience. There are countless examples: knowing when to pass on a deal and wait for the next one, versus jumping on a great opportunity; knowing when to deal politely with tenants, versus dropping the eviction hammer; examples could be listed all day. What is striking however, is that although many investors have mastered the art of patience in its various forms, few have learned to effectively bring that skill to the negotiating table. Patience in negotiations—or more accurately, knowing when to wield patience instead of proactive force—is an invaluable tool that may ultimately be the difference between getting a fair price and your asking price. In other words, this can be the difference between being a good investor and a great investor.
As always, this skill comes in many forms. Clearly, at its surface layer, patience means dealing politely and empathetically with the buyer or seller you are facing. But it goes much deeper than that. Where many investors go wrong is by confusing the notion of patience with that of appeasement. Being patient does not mean you are simply willing to get walked on like a doormat while the opposing party misses deadlines, fails to meet expectations, etc. In negotiating it is always good to be strong, and patience should never be a weakness.
Rather, patience in negotiating is acceptance of the notion that you are in no urgent need of anything. You must of course demonstrate your interest in and commitment to the transaction, and your presence in negotiations should be forceful, but you must not be overly-eager to get things done. Even if it is counter to your interests (everyone wants a quick, easy deal), slowing the transaction process down can have a dramatic effect on the balance of urgency between you and your opponent. That is, while you may desperately need to do this deal, and maybe even relatively quickly, if the opposing buyer or seller thinks you have all the time in the world, then eventually he will be the one pushing you to get it done. And in the world of business, urgency to progress translates to a willingness to make concessions; and in the world of real estate investment, concessions translate to money in your pocket.
It can’t be emphasized strongly enough that this article is not a recommendation to weaken your stance at the negotiating table. As always, do your research, come prepared with firm numbers in mind, and stick to your plan with undying resolution. Simply add to that repertoire the understanding that you stand to gain a great deal by demonstrating your willingness to slow things down. Patience, while frustrating—even infuriating—behind closed doors, can be your ticket to walking away from a negotiation with your ideal price on paper.
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