It would be so nice to think that we lived in a world where everyone could always be genuine with one another; where to shamelessly reveal your true emotions was not just commendable, but standard. Unfortunately, we live in a deceitful, dishonest world, where the successful investor is the cynical one. Emotions in business are rarely genuine; they are not the indicators of true feeling, but rather tools in the arsenal of negotiating tricks that real estate professionals rely on to get the best deals. While it can be difficult to willingly submit to this style of business, such a resignation may be required for success—or at least to stave off failure.
It is important to be passionate about your work—no sane observer would argue otherwise. But it is perhaps more important to know when to reveal that passion, and when to leave it safely, quietly at home. Negotiating, in general, is about estimating demand; and in order to do that, an effective negotiator must be able to read his opponent. Logic (and basic economics) dictates that the more enthusiastic someone is about a deal, the greater the demand is for that deal; it follows, then that an opponent of the enthusiastic negotiator gains additional leverage from this perceived demand. If you show up to purchase a property, and your opponent thinks you’d do anything to get that property, he will hold it against you financially—guaranteed. If you appear thoughtful, prepared, and logical at a negotiation (as opposed to impulsive, unprepared, and emotional), then your opponent will be less inclined to inflate prices in negotiations. Negotiating is estimating demand, and effective negotiating means underselling that demand for your opponent’s misguided estimation. Some may call this dishonest or insincere, but in fact it is simply good business in the form of suppressed emotions.
On the other side of the coin, look for opportunities to expose your opponent’s emotions during negotiations. This does not have to be in the form of targeted, aggressive interrogation, but can simply be a function of careful observation. Look for facial reactions and body language that might reveal even the most stoic of negotiator’s true emotions. With some, it’s like a game of poker; but as with all things, negotiators exist along a bell-curve distribution: the terrible few will make your job easy, the vast majority will be average, and a select few will prove a difficult negotiating match. At every opportunity, take note not only of the language of your opponent, but also their emotional overtones. Most emotional attachment to a deal can be turned into negotiating leverage and a distinct advantage for you, the opponent.
It is important to reiterate that this is not a call for dispassionate work from real estate investors. It is crucial to have an industry field populated with committed, engaged, and passionate professionals. Rather, it is a reminder that the very passion that may make you great at what you do, may also be costing you money at the negotiating table. Learn to keep your emotions at bay, and you will find even more to be emotional about. But only after the deal is done!
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Based out of Indiana, Jay Redding is a real estate entrepreneur, consultant and educator with experience in residential and commercial investing.

